Every day I meet women who do not really, really love themselves. In fact, in my estimation, almost 99% of women do not.
Whether you are single and going on active dates, you have taken a break because of the plague, working long hours, supporting needy friends or family, being in a difficult relationship, overwhelmed by the impact Cubid had on your life, or if you are a mother. Busy caring for children, chances are very good that you forgot to take care of yourself.
If all of the above are true, there is a high probability that you will struggle with thyroid problems, constant fatigue, decreased immunity, inadequate relationships, sexual trauma, disease in your genitals, lack of financial abundance, low self-esteem, feeling of the victim … List more Long.
This is depressing, given that girls and women are the most loving, most powerful people who give on this planet. We give birth to life, take care of others, soak up beauty in our homes and in the world, constantly work on multiple tasks and surpass our male peers both in school and at work.
We are strong and loving creatures. And yet, the female is dying inside.
I have seen it in beautiful little girls with shiny eyes – and I feel sad to know that in time they will lose their self-confidence. (According to a study, nearly 86% of girls struggle with low self-esteem.)
This is the result of being in a wounded patriarchal system, into which we were all born. Do not worry. Men struggle with similar but different problems.
You have a choice now to leave this system, slowly and steadily and start regaining control of your life. Begin to live a life of kindness, wonder and healthy love.
As women, you need to re-awaken to the self of your goddess – to recognize how powerful and radiant you are – and that you can have whatever you want (without struggle) if you love yourself, completely and unapologetically.
The way you love yourself is the way others love you.
This is what I represent, with myself and sisters in my tribe.
What is self-love?
Whenever I ask someone if he likes himself, he says, “Yeah, I pamper myself! I go to the spa, do foam baths, do Manny / Paddy regularly.”
I swear – this is the answer I get!
Self-love is not just about taking care of your appearance. It is about taking care of your emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health. It is a journey of releasing old conditioning and healing yourself, to finally reach the point of true self and authenticity.
When you fill your cup first before you give to others, instead of feeling resentful, overwhelmed or guilty, as you usually do when they are tense, you feel radiant and happy.
Through self-love, you begin to align your life with one who feels natural, balanced, loving – you feel whole and integrated – and connected to your intuition, inner fire and unconditional sense of love. Compassion, wisdom and kindness become second nature to you.
The right relationships, jobs, homes, are starting to flow to you.
You learn how to be more, and do less. You become a magnet for love.
Doesn’t that sound amazing?
Or do you feel skeptical, like it’s too good to be true?
Maybe there is a part of you that knows that self-love requires focus, effort and discipline – a sense of responsibility towards yourself. And you feel lazy, or too burnt already.
Alternatively, you may need to experience some discomfort. For example, making difficult decisions of release from work or a current relationship, or release from the conditions that come second nature for you, or healing spiritual blockages that you do not want to deal with.
Everyone is right. Self-love will shock your world, challenge you and take you out of the victim quota. It will also make you stronger, healthier, and open up new possibilities for you.
You must make a choice. Either you go with the situation right now – or you start practicing self-love.
How to love yourself
When you love yourself…
… you treat yourself as a lover. You practice acceptance, love, intimacy and forgiveness with yourself
… You have space and tools to support your emotional health, be more connected to yourself and release your emotional charge
… you release negative self-talk, and begin to heal your mind. You stop seeking verification and approval from others
… you take care of your soul and what it needs, whether it’s meditation, yoga, self-reflection, healing spiritual blockages, creativity
… you love, accept and care for your body, the owner of his holiness. You are looking at the optimal conditions to help your body thrive
… you set healthy boundaries with others and begin to release toxic and collaborative relationships
… you look at your conditioning, making an intention to release internal wounds that keep you imprisoned in your current state
Imagine what you can create with this kind of inner foundation! And remember, loves begin in you!