Have you heard of the languages of love? Do you know what’s yours?
“The Five Languages of Love,” is a book by Gary Chapman that describes how we best give and receive love. To our family and friends, and of course, to others or our significant spouses. In some cases, our language of love can be similar to our romantic relationships and friendships.
Here are 5 ways to give and receive love.
- Confirmation words – use words to construct the other person. To say I love you. I care about you. I hear you….”
- Gifts – The recipient of the gifts thrives on the love, consideration and effort behind the gift
- Service Actions – Do something for your significant other that you know they will appreciate. Cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, all service operations.
- Quality time – that is, giving your spouse undivided attention. Walking together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and listening.
- Physical Touch – Physical presence and accessibility are critical. Holding hands, hugging and kissing are all expressions of love.
Out of these five, each of you has a primary love language that speaks to you more deeply than others. You can identify with a couple more than the others. Discovering your spouse’s love language and speaking it regularly is the best way to keep love alive in a relationship.
Do you know the language of your love? you need! Answer the quiz here to find out what your favorite love methods are:
What is your main love language you have discovered? ________________
What is your secondary language of love, if you have one? ________________
Did that surprise you? If so, what did you expect your language to be?