It’s really amazing, but even as a veteran dating scene expert, a first date can evoke an incredible range of emotions. I guess it shows that just because we’m over 50 and still dating, it does not mean we have all the answers. One of the most common questions we are asked in adult dating is how to choose a location for a first date. Here are eight tips:
- Try to choose an activity that you both enjoy. It sets the tone, if you choose something that only you like, imagine how your date might feel, struggling to stay polite, bored and disappointed? This is a strategy that also prepares the ground for something you can afford.
- Choosing something that you can afford and accommodate your budget, does not make you a cheap skate. The dangers of throwing money away on a first date can lead your date to a false sense of (how generous you are) and if it is not fixed (how cheap you are) will be unrealistic. Also, having to take into account the finances of your dating, big expenses can make her feel out of your league!
- Do something that does not require new clothes, they are usually uncomfortable and because you are not used to them they may tear or decipher. It is much easier to wear the happy and easy-to-wear old clothes, to concentrate on being you.
- Go where you can have a proper conversation !! I can easily say, the worst first date is in the movies, no conversation, people silencing you, unexpected awkward scenes on screen. Go to a place where you can chat easily.
- Finding a local place, long trips, frayed nerves, poor transportation links is not a good idea for a first date. If you live a reasonable distance meet in the middle.
- Choose an activity that does not involve a lot of alcohol. Hard, especially if you suffer from first night designers. It can lead you to all sorts of complicated situations.
- Find an activity that does not last more than two hours. A good first date is usually short. The key here is to leave them wanting more. If you both enjoyed it easily you will want date number two. If on the other hand, you did not enjoy one of each other’s company, then a few hours is not a big deal.
- Leave time to get to know each other. A date full of too much activity keeps you busy, but if the purpose of the date is an opportunity to get to know each other, quiet time is a good idea. Noise and commotion are distracting.