Think you are not too attractive for online dating? you are not alone.
Many of the men who book appointments with me claim that they are too ugly for dating apps. Guess what you and they have in common? You are all completely wrong. By the time I was done with my clients, most of their inherent fears had completely dissolved. Within a week they start sending me excited messages about how they are getting matches for the first time in ages, and a week after that they sing me a hymn with a written recommendation. Do not believe me? Read them yourself;)
I really never had a client contact me after our last meeting to complain about the lack of results, or leave me a negative review. Am I some magical unicorn princess who solves problems with twisting my hair and waving my magic wand? Obviously I’m, But I also offer practical advice. The truth is that Dating apps can work for 99% of people if you know how to use them. With a little work (and wonderful training), you will get there in no time.
Shockingly, almost all of this work involves being honest with yourself. In my experience, as someone who consults frustrated dates for a living, your problem is probably one of the following:
A) The first is the greatest! Unrealistic expectations. I’ll be honest with you, if you’re a balding guy in your 40s to smile, you probably will not try with a freshman in college – but you can fit in with a 40 year old yoga instructor. If you’re 50kg overweight, you probably are not Going to match with a Sports Illustrated model – but you can match with an attractive lady. Will she be overweight? Maybe, but you are also a man. If you are a white guy living in a small town of Vermont and you are only interested in Japanese women … 🙄 Come on? Your expectations! You can find a lady who will make you happy and fuck you like Dirty, dirty You’re a rock star. Listen, I’m not judging you for being attracted to amazing women … everyone does a double take when they see a cutie. I’m just suggesting (lovingly) that you do not put all your eggs in her hot basket in an unrealistic way.
B) Your photos are not attractive. Notice I said yours Photos They are not attractive, not that you are not attractive. Do not be dramatic, just take better pictures. Take a look at previous blogs for pictures here and here if you want some clues.
C) Bad biography. She’s not interested in a corny pun, your life story, the list of requirements for your dream girl, a dumb brag, or a dog festival about how much you hate online dating. If you need some help, check out my previous blog on Bios here.
D) You live in a rural area. It sucks, I feel you. I come from a small town and I understand that picnics can be thin. Consider changing your focus to the nearest decent-sized city. Do not drop by and say you’re from New York if you’re in Kansas, but it’s okay to use a zip code of a nearby town as long as you know where you live and are willing to make the most of travelers.
Do yourself a favor the next time you catch yourself having a pity party for being too ugly for online dating. Take a good look at your profile to make sure you put your best foot forward, and adjust accordingly. Almost certainly you are not too ugly to find love, sex or friendships in dating apps.
If you feel a little lost, hit me. I’ll move your profile from Basted to Bangin ‘, or you can always get a gift card for a friend!