Your self-locking survival kit;
As I write this we are living in a plague, Cubid 19 has taken over our lives and made meeting people and connection even more challenging.
I train people every day who tell me they feel low, depressed, unconnected and have lost their motivation. I totally understand that we all have good days and bad days, the question is how long are you going to allow yourself to stay in this place? I say to them, ‘What do you get out of being a victim?’ Nothing, they’ll say, ‘that’s not true, you’re probably getting something out of it or you’ve been released from the victim state by now.
It really confuses them so I will come in quickly and explain, ‘What you derive from holding yourself and staying in this victim’s place is that you know these feelings. It’s like a pair of old socks, you know where they are and how to put them on! Also, you need to be right and justified about the situation and we like to be right. Staying in your comfortable place keeps you playing little, avoiding change and distancing yourself from life, adventures, new relationships. ‘
Where do you choose to be? Mode your victim or step out of the comfort zone, challenge yourself, try a new behavior, walk down another street. By choosing something other than your old story, you are going to say yes to change, yes grow and evolve and welcome something new. You do this by saying yes to taking new action, and doing the things yourself that make you feel positive.
In these very strange times I have adopted a little self-survival kit, it involves doing all the things you enjoy and that make you calm and make you smile, every day. If you wake up in a bad mood, you have two options, stay in bed and revel, or get up, shower and keep moving, actions will set you free.
I’m not a morning person, ask my kids, but I’m definitely not a person staying in bed anymore and see what happens, I know what’s going on, a poor start to the day and not much more.
Instead I choose to jump up, count to three and start !!
I recommended that you divide the day into three or four partsS, For me I choose three, have the morning, after lunch and in the afternoon. Each one is an activity, and then I feel a sense of accomplishment, and if one of those sections was not particularly productive then you still have two more sections for your day.
For example, you can choose to take the morning for exercise, a long hour walk and a cup of coffee in the garden, it will set you up for the day and get you off the four walls, which we all need to be creative.. The second part is usually on the laptop, working on my next project, writing or training. This is probably the main work piece that allows me to then enjoy a healthy lunch. The afternoon is an opportunity for you to choose your next activity, it may be work, it may include planning, research or something creative. So you have another pre-dinner segment that I use for yoga, to call a friend, to create something in the kitchen or for food shopping. At the end of the day you can look back and see what you have achieved.
If you are feeling particularly low or struggling with feelings of depression, I suggest more sections of exercise, more time outdoors, cooking, meditation, talking to people who know you well, organizing your closets, listening to music, usually Do something for yourself that will give you a boost. Try it for a week and see how you go on, if you like it find your routine that works for you, remember to nurture yourself, love yourself, because you’re worth it.
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